I apparently can't say any more. It's seen as disrespectful and embarrassing to one's offspring. (What was that about freedom of speech? Did I hear someone muttering out there in cyberspace ...?)
All I'll say is that it took me 20 years to realise I should have completed that first PhD, and then take appropriate action. However, I don't HAVE a second chance in 20 years to be an effective parent. (Heck, I could be a neglected grandparent by then!)
How on earth is a parent supposed to get it right FIRST time? They didn't just change the instruction manual with each child that came along - the manuals somehow came out in different LANGUAGES in subsequent editions!